Hi Friends,
Everyone in this world have friends. Lot of them has good friend, best friend and the intimate friend. According to me there is no problem with best and good friend. The word possessiveness enters when you are intimate. As of me the problem starts when you are intimate I mean quarrel or wrangle etc. I don’t know how many of you guys will recognize it. And I think this happens only with opposite gender.
Due to this there is a minute mystification state whether this is because you are in love with opposite or is it a level of intimacy. You will never come to know about this unless and until you have a third person coming into the game. Hope lot of them would have this come across this circumstances. I can bet on this that lots of them endure without knowing the difference between love and Intimate friendship. There is lot of differences. When the state of possessiveness is high you tend to fight and put the opposite gender into a cage and you try to deny. I don’t say you shouldn’t be possessive but before that understand the others feeling too and few even say its because I care for you so much and even I have done the same. The word caring is different and possessiveness is different. Try to differentiate.Understand the reality. ” Let there be spaces in your togetherness," says Kahlil Gibran, "And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.... Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping". Hope you can understand what Iam trying to say.
Not only in friendship, this can even happen after marriage. The idea of possession of another human spirit goes contrary to principles of truth. Even in marriage, possessiveness imbues relationships with dysfunction and abuse, rather than the life-giving nurturing needed for love. Sometimes Possession is a form of domination and control, stemming from selfishness. The possessor manipulates objects and others for his own purposes. Many issues of abuse come from co-dependent relationships, where one person feels the need to control the other. It's a lot like closed a fist, trying to keep a butterfly from flying away. But I don’t say you shouldn’t show possessiveness. But understand the term possessiveness and dominance. Set it free. Open up your mind!
Love is on the opposite end of the spectrum, like an open hand, letting the miracle of nature rest undisturbed. When you truly love someone, you would never consider confining him or her to a cage. You would wish the universe for their room for expansion. One who loves respects the uniqueness of the other and does not abridge their lover's individual will. Trust is vital to love. When two individuals build mutual faith in each other, they become emotionally free to give and receive love. In mature relationships, individuals don't own each other. They each give to the other an offering of all their love. So friends I hope you understand the word possessiveness, dominance, Love and the intimate friendship.
Jealousy:
"There is no greater glory than love, nor any greater punishment than jealousy."
Love:
"The mark of a true crush Is that you fall in love first And grope for reasons afterward ."
Intimacy:
"Henceforth there will be such a oneness between us--- that when one weeps the other will taste salt."
Have a Happy life Ahead!
